Why do girls like bad boys?
Coming up with an undefiable answer to this is a task as ambitious as proving that Elvis was alive. I know I am not as desperate and idle-minded as those who try to prove what has been taken as fact for the past three decades but let me try a shot at solving one of the great mysteries of modern day dating and perhaps, save a few hearts from being broken (again).
For starters, I’d like to make it clear to everyone that no, I am not writing about bad boys like Robin Padilla in Anak ni Baby Ama or Ang Utol Kong Hoodlum parts 1 and 2. Instead, I am writing about all those boys who shamelessly made mascaras run and guy bashing nights fun.
Yes, I am one of those girls. And so are 99.9% of all my girl friends. (Those who married make the 0.1%.) I spent a great deal of my life after 18 being swept by bad boys only to be dropped with a thud that hurt. And it happened one after the other. Maybe that accounts for the extra pads on my bottom. I should be a 96 lb. stick figure, right?
There have been times when options have been presented to me. But just like most girls I know, I always chose B—the bad boy out of reasons I did not really thought of thinking about. The decision was rather made by instinct and now, I know that girls’ instincts would usually go for danger.
Why do girls like bad boys? Why do girls try to forgive the same guy who made the same mistake over and over again?
Have we become fake dictators—imposing strict rules in our relationships but lifting sentences with just a bouquet and a pair of sad, puppy eyes?
Have we forgotten about symbiosis such that our relationships become either parasitism or predatory?
Or on a deeper note, have our preference for S&M transcended our emotions?
The answers depend on you readers. At the end of the day, I realized that I merely hit the bull’s eye in this entry. Why do girls like bad boys, just like any open-ended question, merits different answers—depending on the context of the one who makes the answer.
So let me just leave you, my clandestine readers, something to think about instead; something that's answerable by yes or no.
Will you let another bad boy hurt you?
Friday, August 1, 2008
Girls and Bad Boys
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Why do girls like bad boys?
ReplyDeleteHmmm… there are but a million answers to that my friends! But intrinsically, I boil's down to the nature of women. A woman is open minded and understanding ( well she would like to believe that hehe) ergo she believes that “people change” and this is where it starts! People don’t really change, there comes a point in a mans life that what you see is what you get and no amount of pushing and pulling will do anything about it ( lets leave this argument though for some other time).
The Bad boy is exciting! Having grown up in Maria Clara environment for the past 100 years, women have had to taper their passions. Being so, going out with the bad boy gives you a sense of freedom and excitement.
What do women really want? ….another brain twister! Har har! What women want is to be able to just be their selves. No judgments, no excuses, not being told what to do. Hence, going out with the bad boy is a brief moment of freedom, empowering her to make her own Decisions not giving a f**k to what this judgmental society has to say.
The problem really starts because women want to rule the world!!!! Simple put, she wants her cake and eat it to! She gets her freedom and excitement yet she knows it won’t last for long but she will cling to that ever fading glimmer of hope that in the end the frog will turn into a prince.
Good boy? Bad boy? ….Hmmm…he can change naman diba?
Big D! You were here.
ReplyDeleteYou're right about women hoping that their men will change. We are not cynics after all. Just like YOU, we are hopeless romantics. Thanks to our spinster aunties and caretakers who were educated by Harlequin, Mills and Boon and Danielle Steel.
And about Maria Clara... That seems to be true for me too! My liking for bad boys happened instantly when I thought of reinventing myself from Maria Clara to Madonna. HAHA! And this doesn't pertain to promiscuity or whatever you wanna call it. It's more of being someone who's capable of doing what she likes without giving a damn. And that was truly exciting.
As for women wanting to rule the world? Hmm... How about ruling our relationships? Hmm... I have to refute my earlier statement on women being dictators. You see, I still believe in democracy; that we have equal rights and equal responsibilities.
Do come back soon. I should put a He Says, She Says tag here.
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